Mom Sparks Family Feud by Saving Lottery Winnings for Her Son’s Future Instead of Splitting with Siblings

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    r/AITAH ⚫ 1 hr. ago Objective-Throat-995 AITA for not wanting to share my lottery win with my siblings, and now my family is furious with me?
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    So, I (34F) won the lottery a few months back. It was honestly the most shocking thing that's ever happened to me one minute I'm picking up milk and bread at the store, and on a whim I just thought, "Why not?” and got a
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    lottery ticket. I didn't expect anything to come from it. I don't even play regularly! But somehow, I hit a decent jackpot. Not like hundreds of millions, but enough to really make a difference, y'know?
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    Anyway, I was ecstatic. First thing I did was call my mom. She was excited at first, but then like a minute later, she starts saying, "So, are you going to share it with the family?" Like, before I'd even processed the news myself.
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    Some context here. I've got two siblings. My brother and sister have always kinda been... how do I put it, distant? When I had my son (he's autistic and needs a lot of support), it was pretty much just me on my own. They didn't
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    offer help, didn't check in much, and it hurt, honestly. I love them, but I've had to go through so much alone. My mom, too I mean, she was supportive in her way, but she was never really there in the ways I needed her.
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    So, I was really surprised when she asked about sharing the winnings right away. And, to be real, my gut reaction was kind of, "Um, no." I mean, where was this "family takes care of family" idea when I was struggling?
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    I told her I wasn't planning on sharing the money, that I wanted to use it to secure my son's future, pay off debts, and just finally breathe a little. But after I said it, she got really quiet, then goes, "Well, that's really disappointing." That hit hard.
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    Since then, my siblings have been calling me selfish and saying I've let "money go to my head," and even my mom has hinted that I'm being greedy. She actually told me that my son "needs a strong family around him" and that I'm ruining that with my attitude.
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    I feel awful now, second- guessing myself. Like, maybe I'm being too harsh? But I also can't ignore that they weren't there when I needed them. And it's not like I'm blowing the money I'm planning on setting it up so that
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    my son's cared for, because he might always need extra help, and honestly, it's always just been us. So, AITA for wanting to keep the winnings for me and my son's future instead of handing it out to my family who never really helped us?
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    Candid Process1831 1h ago • NTA! Take good care of you and you son and enjoy it! Your parents and siblings should be happy for you and you sons instead of bering jelous !! Also take care as you have money know you will get a lot of new friends. !! You know what i mean..
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    MagnussonWoodworking • 1h ago • She actually told me that my son "needs a strong family around him" Yeah, she's right. And since none of them bothered with that before, no point in changing that now when the only difference is that they want something out of it. NTA, f them.
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    Cute-Profession9983 • 1h ago This is exactly why you never tell people you wom the lottery. You get with a financial professional and lock down taxes and savings and investments etc. The second someone finds out you won the lottery, that's found money to them and they have no problem coming out of the woodwork to hit you up for help or to invest in their terrible business or pay for their college or wedding or such
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    Electronic_Fox_6383 1h ago • You're not awful in the slightest. Your son should always and forever be your priority. Treat yourself to a nice trip while you're at it too. NTA
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    Sea-Ad9057 • 1h ago • Inta tell them you need the money to help pay for the additional support you need to live and raise your kid since you have not received any support from anyone, maybe invest in some extra childcare amd/therapist/specialist too so you can get extra support and reduce the pressure on you as a family it will help all of you in the long run
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    cm-lawrence ⚫ . 1h ago • NTA. Lesson learned - you shouldn't have told anyone. But, your family is being absurd. You don't owe anyone anything. Take care of yourself and your needs.
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    daddysbratxx •1h ago • NTA. Honestly, they can't expect "family loyalty" now when they bailed when you actually needed them. You're just securing your son's future, totally fair. Let them be salty.
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    bhvneitt • 1h ago • You should never ever disclose your lottery winnings or any other events where you receive substantial money to anyone especially your siblings, cousins, friends or your parents. Money ruins relationships and people expect handouts. Don't fall for their emotional manipulation.
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    lychigo • 1h ago • Family doesn't require money to be strong. That your mom thinks that money will make them become a stronger family seems disingenuous because they didn't give a before. They're just in it for what they can get out of it. Get a lawyer/finance accountant who specializes in managing lottery funds if it's more than a million. - esp
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    Shichimi88 . 1h ago. Nta. Should've never told your family. Vultures coming.
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    www ALL ISTMEY So, I was really surprised when she asked about sharing the winnings right away. And, to be real, my gut reaction was kind of, "Um, no." I mean, where was this "family takes care of family" idea when I was struggling? BULLINERES

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